Is Divorce a Sin… Or a Sacred Call?

Over 300 of you answered. And the responses? All over the map:

• “Absolutely not.”
• “It must be… because it feels like I’m being punished.”
• “I’m still wrestling with it.”

Same.

So instead of pretending there’s one perfect answer, I did what I do best: opened a sacred convo about healing, truth, and the holy work of rising again.

Let’s dive in.

💔 First of All: What Is Sin?

If you grew up in the church (or around it), you’ve probably got a complicated relationship with that word. Sin. It sounds harsh. Shameful. A scarlet letter.

But here’s the plot twist: The original Greek word for sin is “hamartia,” which literally means… “to miss the mark.”

Sin isn’t just bad behavior. It’s misalignment. Being out of sync with God, your purpose, or the truth of who you are.

So maybe it’s time to stop asking “Is divorce a sin?” and start asking: Where was I out of alignment—and what am I being called back to?

🌪️ The Real Sin Might’ve Come Before the Divorce

In my case, my ex cheated. There was dishonesty, money drama, and emotional unavailability. That alone could’ve ended things.

But when I look back now? That wasn’t the full story.

The deeper truth? We were never aligned in the first place. I ignored red flags. I abandoned my own needs. I stayed way longer than my soul wanted me to.

And when I finally got the clearest nudge I’ve ever felt from the Holy Spirit—I filed. Not out of hate. Out of obedience.

Not because it was easy. But because staying would’ve meant continuing to miss the mark.

💡 What Alignment Actually Feels Like

Let’s demystify this: alignment isn’t some fluffy affirmation or Pinterest quote. It’s when your nervous system is calm. It’s when your body exhales. It’s when your inner knowing speaks louder than your fear.

You stop:

• Asking for permission
• Obsessively comparing your life to others
• Shrinking to fit someone else’s mold

And you start:

• Trusting yourself
• Making moves from clarity, not chaos
• Feeling like you again

Leaving my marriage broke me open—but it was the most aligned decision of my life. And what came after? Purpose. Peace. Women in my DMs saying “Thank you for speaking what I’ve been too scared to say out loud.”