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Hi, I’m Christina Cuevas. Seven years ago, I went through a divorce and it completely turned my world upside down. And I’m so glad it did. I documented my healing to share information with other women going through their own divorce journey. And now, With thousands of downloads around the world from divorced women just like you, I’m here to show you how to ditch the shame around divorce and finally heal so that you can regain the confidence to create your most abundant and joyful future.

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Have you been feeling a little bit off since your divorce? Like those goals, those big dreams are swirling in this fog. That don’t seem quite clear. It’s time to find your why. Welcome back to another [00:01:00] episode of rebuilding you. I’m your host and your divorce transformation mentor, Christina. And today we’re building your compass to navigate the greatness that you deserve. Through your why statement?

I have been having so many conversations. And our divorced women community. On different groups that I’m in. And also just feeling such a need. For this episode specifically, because no matter where you’re at in your divorce healing journey, whether you are. Just getting started or you’re even thinking about divorce or it’s been years. Since you’ve been divorced. It all comes back to remembering what our why is.

And it’s so important that we have that. And everybody’s why statement is unique to you and it’s unique to what your soul truly wants, but somehow. [00:02:00] We tend to think that our, why is outside of us is in something that we need to go do or accomplish or figure out. When we can really get down to the essence and remember why. This all started, why our whole divorce journey and the conversations that we had with ourselves when. Things were dark we didn’t know how we were going to get through it, but there was that conversation with that little voice deep inside of us saying, I know I’m worthy for more.

I know that I am capable of something great in this world. And it’s when we can really anchor with that statement of what truly comes from our soul, from our heart. That will help us get through all of the stages to come. So I want to share. A snippet of my why statement that really [00:03:00] helped me. Through my divorce journey. And so I’m going to share this with you. This, this was written in my notes. On my phone and it says I’m filing for divorce because I know in my heart, this is not what God wants for me. I deserve to be loved. Like it’s sacred. I was placed on this earth with a purpose to share my knowledge with others in need so that together we can change the world. I will not stop. Until I get there.

Uh, I’m sending love. To the person that I was at that time, who. Had no idea that I would be here. That had no idea. The challenges and the road that lied ahead. But I had my why statement and my why statement. Was like making a promise to myself.

As I mentioned, I’ve been having tons of conversations with women in our community the, her heart heals insiders, it’s our [00:04:00] free email community. That we share coaching and insights and just all the tips and tricks. Throughout the seasons for us women to really thrive into our next level chapter. Now, if you’ve been following me for a while, you know, that next level chapter is different than turning the page and just starting on your next chapter, which is what most people call it. But not here.

 At her heart heals. It is. Your next level chapter. That is what we focus on at her heart heals is growth and mindset, and empowering you to step into the best version of yourself so that you can experience the best that life has to offer for you. I have a really special download for this episode only. So when you join the her heart heals insider, you’ll also get a free download. Which walks you through crafting your own why statement [00:05:00] save it on your phone so that you can go back and reference it time and time again. This episode is going to walk you through all of the different. Ways to structure and the importance of creating a why statement, but the free download and template for you to craft your own. Why statement is going to be key for you to really put this into action? So don’t miss out on the free download, go to the link in the show notes.

And when you get this download, you’ll automatically join the, her heart heals insiders, and you’ll be a part of our community. So. I’m really excited you could even grab that , while you’re still listening to this episode and get the download and follow along. It’s going to be great.

Okay. So let’s get back into it.

So a why statement? Is a brief. But profound declaration of your core purpose. And the reason for your determination to thrive. After divorce. Now it’s different than a goal, [00:06:00] right? A goal is things that we. Want to achieve. But our, why is the driving force? That’s empowering us to achieve the goal.

Now some of the why statements that I’ve helped my clients with over the years could be very simple. Like my, why is to live a deeply, joyful and connected life. Or my why is to create a world where my children feel safe and loved. And this is why. The why matters.

So why the why statement actually matters. As I mentioned, it’s really an anchor. And it acts like a beacon when you are feeling doubtful or lost. I talked to a woman the other day and she made a comment to me where she declared it for herself. Maybe I should have just stayed. In my marriage then. Made the choice to leave because at least. I [00:07:00] would have. Someone paying for a roof over my head. And when we actually got deeper. And I talked to her a little bit more about her. Why and her reason for filing for divorce. And that she was in an abusive relationship. She started changing things about herself. To the point where she totally lost the essence of who she was. She gave up completely on her dreams so that she could help to keep the marriage together, but also help. This other person’s dream. Who was abusing her? And in that moment. Made her why statement? And somewhere along the line, now that she’s been divorced for over a year. And she’s rebuilding her life. She lost the why statement?

The essence of her, why statement? And when we [00:08:00] rediscovered her, why statement? Oh, my gosh, it was such a game changer. In the rest of our work together because she was then able to tap in. To her soul, which if you’ve worked with me before, you know that in the, her heart heals method, we do that deep inner work together where we are rebuilding that connection between you and all the different versions of yourself so that you can then build a strong and solid foundation and leap from that because you can’t leap from a broken foundation, you’ll fall flat on your face, time and time again.

And so we create a solid foundation so that you can leap. Taking three steps forward and zero steps back in the, so the why statement is absolutely crucial. So that we can be able to do that. And that’s why I wanted to talk about this in an episode today.

So our why [00:09:00] statement can also help us evaluate our choices. Does this path align with our core purpose, with our why statement? So if we have this anchor of our why statement and we can go back and we can reference it time and time again. Our why statement fuels our determination when the journey gets hard. When it gets a little sticky when it guts. Scary when it, when we go into uncharted territory again and again, it reminds us of the bigger picture beyond those temporary setbacks. So, how do we find our, why? Maybe you’ve already started. Getting some ideas or maybe your soul has been whispering to you so far throughout this episode. But I’m going to go ahead and guide you through some questions to really help you reflect on. Your unique, why statement?

Because everybody’s why statement is going to be different. This is [00:10:00] not just one of those things that you can go on Pinterest and you can search for a really cool quote and then save it on your phone. Your why statement is your unique statement? So. Here’s a couple of questions for you.

What are the values that you hold most dear. And for values. I like to keep it as one word so you can go in Google or look for words that are values. And then really think about those words. Pick two or three. Values that you hold most dear.

Then ask yourself. What experiences. I have shaped who you are today.

And then. I want you to ask yourself, when do you feel most alive? And purposeful.

And as I mentioned, if this is bringing up. Whispers or ideas, or it’s taking you back to the moment where you knew. That you [00:11:00] had to go through divorce. That divorce was the only option. I want you to go back to that time. And I want you to write your why statement from that place. And you’ll be surprised. What powerful, powerful words come out of you.

And the really cool thing about this is that once you learn how to do this exercise, And you keep the worksheet that you are going to download that will have all of the instructions on how to craft your why statement so that you can refine. And read new your why statement time and time again, you can go back.

You can reflect on your original why statement? And then as you evolve and change and grow. You can then start to create new why statements. So again, be sure to go and grab the worksheet. It’s really crafted just for you so that you [00:12:00] can use this as a tool to help you up level. Okay, so now we’ve learned what a, why statement is why it’s important. We’ve crafted our why statement. And now it’s time to talk about our why statement and action, and how to use your why statement so that you can really evolve and Uplevel after divorce. Now some examples into how you can incorporate your why statement is make it a daily affirmation. A lot of times we. Become distracted with daily tasks so that’s why I also created that unique digital download so that you can keep your why statement on your phone. And so you can make it a daily affirmation. So you could even use it as your screensaver. Um, you can put it on your computer. You can even create an alert for yourself on your calendar and just drop the image in there. That way. It alerts you every couple of days and you can get reminded of your own [00:13:00] unique why statement. The second thing is to keep it visible. As I mentioned, your phone background, you can put it as a note on your mirror. You can print it out.

And then revisit and reflect on it when you’re making major decisions or when you are feeling doubtful about something big and scary.

So I have a quick action item for you. I really want to know what your, why statement is and what you are trying to call in for yourself. And what you’re anchoring to. So I would love it. If you shared your why statement with me. Be sure to DM me on Instagram, you can find me at her heart heals. Send me a picture or just send me a message of what your why statement is. And let’s go through it together.

I really want to know. What your soul, why statement is so that we can really focus on navigating where your true north [00:14:00] is and where you’re headed and we can celebrate together. So. Be sure to DM me on Instagram at her heart heals. And share your why statement with me because when you can share your why statement, it’s also a declaration.

So take me up on this action challenge. Let me know how serious you are about truly moving forward and evolving and making this the best season of your life yet. So let’s celebrate together.

Okay. So that’s it. That is your why statement.

Tutorial and many workshop. I want to remind you to grab the free worksheet and templates for you. For this episode, the link is in the show notes.

So just a reminder, your why is the heart of your rebuilding journey now go and tap into your power and write that next level chapter of your extraordinary [00:15:00] story. And I know that if you’re here and you’re listening to this episode, You have a beautiful vision for yourself and what you want to create. For yourself in this life, in this world. And you are on a mission for something bigger.

And so I hope that this really helped you. I hope you take me up on that action item, where you are sharing your why statement with me. And let me know. What it is that you are declaring for your life and what your, why is. Thank you so much for being a part of the rebuilding you community and for listening. If you love the episode, it would really mean a lot to me. If you could rate and review the podcast so that it helps to spread the message to other women going through divorce. That is the only way to grow this podcast and really reach. All of the women who are on this journey as well. I’m so grateful for you.

Thank you so much for listening. And until next time. [00:16:00] Keep rebuilding you, you got this.