You’re Not Broken. You’re in the In-Between.
The divorce papers are signed.
The chaos has passed.
You’ve even started putting yourself back together—therapy, green juice, gym selfies, and all.
And yet…
You still don’t feel like you.
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You’re not crying on the floor anymore, but you’re also not excited to wake up in the morning.
You’re surviving, sure. But thriving? Not even close.
This space?
This weird, quiet, low-key soul-sucking space?
It’s what I call the in-between.
And no one is talking about it.
What Is the In-Between (And Why It Feels So Off)
The in-between is that disorienting space after your life explodes—but before the new version of you fully arrives.
You’re not in crisis.
You’re not in your comeback.
You’re in limbo.
And that limbo is exhausting.
Why?
Because for the first time in a long time, you’re not distracted by emergencies.
You’re sitting in silence. With your thoughts. With your life.
And suddenly the real questions surface:
- Who am I now that I’m not a wife?
- What do I even want anymore?
- What if I get it wrong again?
Here’s What No One’s Saying
This phase is dangerous—not because it’s bad, but because it’s easy to get stuck here.
You’re out of the fire, but still standing in the ashes.
No roadmap. No identity. Just a to-do list and some spiritual band-aids.
And so what do we do?
We fill the space.
With healing podcasts. With self-help books. With over-working. With helping other people heal.
(Yeah, that was me too.)
But behind the productivity and personal growth content is this quiet ache:
You still don’t feel like you.
Busyness is Numbing in Disguise
Staying busy doesn’t mean you’re healing.
Sometimes it just means you’re avoiding.
📌 Journaling daily but never confronting your core wound?
📌 Going to therapy but filtering everything through “I’m fine”?
📌 Coaching others through breakups when you haven’t fully sat with your own?
Oof. I’ve been there. And here’s what I had to learn the hard way:
This season is not a waiting room.
It’s a training ground.
What This Phase is Really About (And Why It Matters)
This isn’t about changing your job, your body, or your calendar.
This is about changing your essence.
It’s not about doing more.
It’s about learning how to be.
Be still.
Be present.
Be with yourself.
It’s about rebuilding your identity—not your image.
If you want a life you’ve never had, you have to do things you’ve never done.
And for most of us? That starts with sitting the hell down.
Ready for the Shift?
If you’re stuck in the in-between, here’s your permission slip to stop “performing” your healing and start embodying it.
This is the phase where women either:
- 🔁 Circle the same patterns for years…
- 💥 Or they break the cycle for good and become who they were actually meant to be.
I want the second option for you.
Step Into Your Comeback Era
💻 That’s exactly why I created The Comeback Code—a free masterclass for women rebuilding after heartbreak, divorce, or just a life they no longer recognize.
Inside, I’ll teach you:
- The 3-phase framework that takes you from “just surviving” to holy crap, this is my life?!
- How to break emotional loops and shift into future identity
- And why most women sabotage the exact thing they say they want—and how to stop doing that, like, yesterday
👉 Click here to save your seat now.
Or DM me “comeback” on Instagram @herheartheals, and I’ll personally send you the invite.
Final Takeaway: Trust the Pause
“You’re not stuck.
You’re in a sacred pause.
And your job isn’t to hustle through it—it’s to hear what God is trying to say.”
Stop waiting.
Stop spiraling.
Start listening.
She’s in there. The woman you’re becoming.
And this is the space where you meet her.
Hope you enjoyed this read! xo, Christina
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