Divorce Rage: Why Suppressing It Is Sabotaging Your Growth

If you’ve ever found yourself fantasizing about rage-texting your ex, throwing your wedding photos in a bonfire, or screaming along to Linkin Park in your car with tears streaming down your face… you’re not alone.

You’re also not broken.

You’re angry. And that’s not a problem.

In fact, the rage you’re trying to suppress might be the very emotion that finally sets you free.

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Rage Isn’t the Villain—It’s the Messenger

After divorce, most women are encouraged to take the high road. Be gracious. Get over it. Focus on gratitude. Move on.

But what happens when that grief you’ve “journaled about” turns into a gnawing, unspoken rage?

Here’s what happened to me:
I ignored my anger until one day, I snapped—at my sister. It wasn’t even about her. She made a tiny comment, and suddenly I was crying, yelling, and shaking. Not my finest moment.

But that breakdown was actually a breakthrough.
Because in that moment, I realized something profound:

Rage wasn’t something I needed to silence. It was something I needed to listen to.

Why Suppressing Anger After Divorce Backfires

Society teaches women to be “good girls.”
We’re taught to regulate, to smile, to move on with grace.

But the truth is:
What you suppress doesn’t disappear.
It festers—and shows up in other ways:

Sudden outbursts at people you love
Emotional shutdown in new relationships
Resentment at work or home
Burnout, low self-worth, and even illness

Unprocessed rage will bite you in the ass later. And often in ways that feel worse than just facing it now.

The Truth About Divorce Rage: It’s Sacred

Rage isn’t random. It’s sacred.
It’s your inner protector.
It’s the part of you that remembers what you deserved.
It’s the signal that a boundary was crossed—and you’re finally waking up.

Rage is the voice of the self you silenced in that relationship.

She’s not here to destroy you.
She’s here to rebuild you.

How to Start Releasing Rage in a Healthy Way

You don’t need to go full scorched earth (though I did go on a few treadmill rage runs to 30 Seconds to Mars—no regrets).

Here’s how to start small and intentional:

Journal Prompt:
What am I pretending not to be mad about?
Let it pour out, unfiltered.
Move Your Body:
Put on your rage playlist. Scream in the car. Throw a pillow. Move the energy through your body—not just your mind.
Use Your Breath:
Inhale deeply. Hold for 5 seconds.
Exhale with sound.
Repeat. Let your body feel safe releasing.

You don’t need to “get over it.”
You just need to let it move through you.

This Is the Work We Do in Your Greatest Comeback

Inside Your Greatest Comeback, we go deep into this process.

In Week 2, we focus on getting your “good years” back by helping you reclaim your power, self-worth, and time.

We don’t bypass your rage—we alchemize it.

You’ll learn to feel, move, and own your emotions so they stop controlling you—and start fueling your transformation.

This is your comeback era.
And your rage? She’s invited.