What If You’re The One Keeping Yourself Stuck?
I wrote something in my journal recently that stopped me in my tracks:
“This is the happiest I’ve ever been. I want to freeze time. But in freezing, I noticed I’m also avoiding bringing in new change. Things keep happening where I’m manifesting obstacles.”
That’s when I had an oh crap moment: I was subconsciously sabotaging myself without even realizing it.
And it hit me—how many of us do this after a huge life change, like divorce?
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Why Divorce Puts You in Stealth Mode Survival
The hardest part of divorce is over. You’ve rebuilt. You’re finally feeling like yourself again. You can breathe.
But when it comes to anything beyond this—bigger dreams, new opportunities, stepping fully into your comeback—you hesitate.
Maybe you tell yourself:
🚩 “Now isn’t the right time.”
🚩 “I don’t want to mess up what I’ve built.”
🚩 “If I reach for more, what if I lose everything again?”
So you freeze.
Not because you’re lazy. Not because you’re incapable. But because your subconscious has learned that survival mode works. And anything outside of that? Feels like a risk.
Are You Manifesting Obstacles To Keep Yourself Safe?
This part might sting a little, but if this is you, I want you to hear me out:
Sometimes, we create distractions and roadblocks without even realizing it.
🙋🏻♀️ Maybe you were ready to invest in yourself, but suddenly, an unexpected expense popped up.
🙋🏻♀️ Maybe you were about to take a leap, but then self-doubt crept in, whispering, “What if I fail?”
🙋🏻♀️ Maybe you were excited about something new, but now you feel… drained.
These aren’t coincidences. They’re comfort zones disguised as obstacles.
And I get it. I once convinced myself that God didn’t want me to up-level because my air conditioning unit broke right when I was about to make a big investment. (Spoiler: it was actually just my fear keeping me small.)
The Real Reason You Feel Stuck After Divorce
There’s a saying that changed my life:
💡 “Someone’s familiar hell is safer than an unfamiliar heaven.”
Let that sink in.
Your old patterns, old fears, and old ways of living—even if they were miserable—are familiar.
Meanwhile, your dream life feels… unknown. Unpredictable. Even risky.
So instead of stepping into your unfamiliar heaven, you settle into your familiar hell. Not because you want to, but because your subconscious thinks it’s safer.
How to Stop Holding Yourself Back and Step Into Your Greatest Comeback
Here’s the hard truth:
If you don’t recognize these patterns and move through them, you risk staying exactly where you are.
So let’s change that.
💡 Step 1: Get brutally honest with yourself.
Ask: Am I making excuses to stay where I am? If an “obstacle” keeps showing up every time you’re about to up-level, your subconscious is probably running the show.
💡 Step 2: Reframe fear as expansion.
Fear isn’t a stop sign—it’s a sign of growth. If something feels big and scary, it probably means you’re on the edge of something life-changing.
💡 Step 3: Take the first aligned action.
Not the “safe” action. Not the “wait and see” action. The one that actually moves you forward. It could be as simple as saying yes to something you’ve been avoiding.
This Is Exactly Why I Created Your Greatest Comeback
If this hit home, you’re not alone. I created Your Greatest Comeback for women just like you—women who have rebuilt the basics after divorce but still feel stuck.
✔ You’ve done the healing, but something still feels missing.
✔ You know you’re meant for more, but fear is keeping you small.
✔ You’re craving something bigger—purpose, abundance, freedom.
In Your Greatest Comeback, I help you break these cycles, rewrite your patterns, and start taking action on the life you’ve been praying for.
🚀 If you’re ready to stop surviving and finally step into the life you’re meant for, apply now:
📍 Apply to Your Greatest Comeback
Final Thoughts
If you’ve been waiting for a sign that it’s time to move forward—this is it.
Your comeback doesn’t stop when you feel baseline happy. That’s just the starting line.
The life you’ve been quietly praying for is waiting. Are you ready to claim it?
Hope you enjoyed this read! xo, Christina
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