[00:00:00] Hey there, gorgeous girlfriends buckle up because we’re about to have a real heart to heart today. Let’s face it. Divorce sucks. But. Guess what here on rebuilding you, you’re not alone. In fact. Half of all marriages end in divorce. And let me tell you. I’ve been there too. Tears tantrums, the whole messy shebang. But here’s the thing. Divorce.

[00:00:27] Isn’t the end of the story. It’s the freaking beginning. Of a new chapter. And it can be a marvelous one. That’s right. I said marvelous, because today we’re talking about. Not just good noxious ma. Not just a, Hey, how you doing? I’m surviving like the Kanye song. But a life that explodes with joy and purpose and enough self-love. That could even make Beyonce a little jealous.

[00:00:56] So. Ditch the tissues today. Grab your mocktail. [00:01:00] And let’s dive into the magic of rebuilding you because listen up, queen. You deserve a great life and not just a good one. You didn’t come this far just to come this far.

[00:01:10] You’re listening to Her Heart Heals Divorce Radio.

[00:01:19] Hi, I’m Christina Cuevas. Seven years ago, I went through a divorce and it completely turned my world upside down. And I’m so glad it did. I documented my healing to share information with other women going through their own divorce journey. And now, With thousands of downloads around the world from divorced women just like you, I’m here to show you how to ditch the shame around divorce and finally heal so that you can regain the confidence to create your most abundant and joyful future.

[00:01:49] I’m so glad you’re here. This is Her Heart Heals Divorce Radio.

[00:01:54] Now before we get all woo on each other, let’s define what good [00:02:00] and great even mean in this post-divorce world. A good life is kind of like that comfy old yoga mat that you keep meaning to replace. It gets the job done, but there’s no spark. It’s just kind of there. It’s stability for sure.

[00:02:17] But where’s the growth, where’s the adventure. Where is the feeling like you’re just thriving. You’re excited to whip out that mat or in class. And it actually inspires you to work out harder and better, and actually do the workout.

[00:02:34] A great life on the other hand is like that brand new Lulu lemon mat. It’s got that really pretty tie dye design. That just makes you want to frickin downward dog, like nobody’s watching. It’s about exceeding expectations, pushing your limits and living a life. So audacious. That your ex and all the haters. We’ll need sunglasses just [00:03:00] to look at you. When I first got divorced, heck for a long time after divorce. I was always feeling like I had to prove myself to everyone. And eventually it became this automatic reaction that I had. In how I carried myself and how I went out into the world.

[00:03:19] But eventually I also had to face myself, like, who am I?

[00:03:24] I did not like who I was becoming. The whole reason for filing for divorce. Was to have a better quality of life. It was to listen to that little gut instinct. That was within me saying that something’s not right here. I’m deserving of more. I. Need to be living life and serving in a big and massive way.

[00:03:47] And so when I was not. Living like that after my divorce.

[00:03:51] I was like, who even am I. Like then I was even asking myself, what is. Divorce [00:04:00] actually trying to tell me.

[00:04:01] I just posted on Instagram actually about how a 1% shift can really change our life. You’ll have to go back and check out the post. If you don’t follow me on Instagram, it’s a party over there. You can find me at her heart heals. So holla at your girl over there on Instagram, but. I pose this question. What if divorce isn’t happening to you?

[00:04:26] It could always feel like, fuck man. Why is this. Sucking so bad. Why does it have. I seem to be like thing after thing just keeps. Happening, like all these roadblocks, all these setbacks. But what if it’s happening for you?

[00:04:43] We’re so good at being intuitive. And getting these feelings that maybe something’s not right, or maybe a gut instinct that it’s something to go for. Maybe it’s something

[00:04:57] used to point us in the right [00:05:00] direction.

[00:05:00] And if you’ve gone through divorce, You’ve had those feelings. Like I know that, you know what I’m talking about. But somewhere along the line. We stopped taking action. Muting ourselves. Muting our voice. Muting our desires. And that’s when we left fear takeover.

[00:05:20] But those feelings, those little nudges. Are the key to our destiny.

[00:05:25] And when I listened. When I got clear. When I started trusting myself. That’s when my world. Completely changed for the better.

[00:05:38] And I’m not talking. Just like. I got the extra parking spot or. Like that stuff happened to. But I’m talking. Manifesting. Owning a home. When your girl was almost homeless. I’m talking manifesting. [00:06:00] More. Financial freedom. Than I’ve ever experienced in my entire life, even though. During my divorce, I lost my entire life savings.

[00:06:13] And now. I get to coach women every day. On creating their dream life. In this episode, we’re going to cover what makes a good life and what makes a great life. Super high level. There’s just not enough time. To get into nitty gritty. But if you are interested in nitty gritty, I am looking for women to implement this work. And realize the life of their dreams this year.

[00:06:40] I’m so excited because for limited time, I’m offering free next chapter audit calls. Now what exactly is this next chapter article? Imagine it as your personal divorce, defying roadmap to a life that’s fricking awesome. Getting back to your happily ever [00:07:00] after or happiest ever after. We’ll spend 45 minutes together, diving deep into where you’re at uncovering hidden strengths.

[00:07:08] You’ve never realized that you had and smashing through any limiting beliefs that might be holding you back. So by the end of the call, you’re going to walk away with crystal clarity on your unique vision. No more feeling lost or unsure of what you want. Next. You’ll come out with a personalized action plan to ditch the overwhelm and get a step-by-step guide to make your dreams a reality plus tools and resource. Resources that you need to feel empowered and equipped to rock your next chapter.

[00:07:36] Like a total boss. B. So if you’re ready to stop feeling stuck and finally step into a life that’s filled with confidence, clarity, and joy. This next chapter audit call is for you, but here’s the catch spots are limited. And since this is a special offer, I can’t guarantee that it’s going to be back again.

[00:07:58] So you can head over [00:08:00] to the link in the show notes right now. To schedule your call. And claim your spot before they’re gone. Don’t wait girl, this is your chance to rewrite your story and create the life you deserve. So, if you are called, this is your sign right here.

[00:08:16] So go to the link. You can actually book the call. While you’re listening to this podcast. You don’t have to pause it. It’ll still keep playing and let me know if you have any questions. Okay, so let’s break it down of what makes a great life after divorce.

[00:08:32] The first thing is relationships. When we can ditch. The pity party and the people around us who. Act as victims or what I like to call energy vampires. And you can build a squad of supportive friends. Or family or your chosen family is what I like to call some of your friends. People who you can equally lift each [00:09:00] other up and not drag each other down. Of course, there’s always going to be. People who go through hard times and you can lean on each other during that time. And it’s a very beautiful thing. But I know that you know what relationships I’m talking about, where it just becomes soul sucking. That is the difference between a good life and a great life is to have. Great people around you. That inspire you. That pushed you to do better because that’s what life is all about.

[00:09:32] We are supposed to evolve as humans. We’re not supposed to stay the same and a big question that I get actually from women in our divorced community is. If it’s normal to lose friends after you go through a divorce. Yes. It is a hundred percent normal because the reality is. Our whole world changes. It’s like, When COVID happened. [00:10:00] Everybody went on lockdown.

[00:10:01] Nobody was prepared for what was about to happen. And our whole world radically changed. I definitely feel like that is an external example of what divorce feels like in someone’s life, because I know for me and the women that I work with. We’re not the same.

[00:10:21] So relationships can definitely make a great life. There’s a quote that I love. And it says you are the average of the five people closest to you. Meaning that the people that you surround yourself with. You will eventually adopt certain ways of living, ways of being characteristics, social norms. Expectations of yourself. And so take a look at the five closest people around you, and you are the average of those people now. You may have looked at those five people in your life and say, no, they’re solid gold. [00:11:00] That’s amazing.

[00:11:01] You’re good in this department and we can move on to the next section. But if not, if it’s the five people that you spend the most time with are people that are not in alignment with the life that you want to live. It might be time to make some changes. And I’m not saying like cut off your friends or cut off your family. I’m talking about implementing boundaries. I’m talking about implementing communication. And being able to.

[00:11:33] Create a degree of separation so that you can then create space. Two. I bring a new, healthy, thriving relationships. Right? So food for thought there. Speaking of relationships. If you have already dipped your toe into the dating world, or you’re thinking about getting into dating again after divorce, I also want to invite you to check out my episode number 68, 5 internal red [00:12:00] flags that we all get around dating that are not to be ignored.

[00:12:04] So if you currently are dating or you feel like you’re ready to start dating and you don’t really know, you’re not really sure this episode. Facade is for you. It’s episode. number 68. And I go into all of the internal red flags that we experience after divorce and how to move through them.

[00:12:24] Next is career and finances. So who says that you can’t be a boss, babe? Just because you’re single. This is your chance to redefine success on your own terms. So that means.

[00:12:38] Going after that promotion, launching that side hustle finally becoming the dog-walking CEO that you were always meant to be.

[00:12:47] One of the things that divorce actually helped me realize was the love that I have for animals and for dogs. I’ve talked about this before, but I walked away from. Any monetary [00:13:00] gain in my divorce so that I could keep my dogs. And it ended up being the best thing that ever happened to me.

[00:13:06] But I also took that passion to create a small side hustle selling and informing people about the benefits of CBD for dogs. And I had a. Company that created CBD oil just for dogs. I went around, met with a bunch of experts. People in the veterinary world and created just the most beautiful. Community of people people, that I’m still friends with to this day and made some extra cash got more involved in a cause. So leaning into new passions and new perspectives and new ideas that come to you can be a really great way to start unfolding how your life after divorce is supposed to go.

[00:13:56] Okay, so next let’s talk about personal [00:14:00] growth. This is everything here. Like if I had to pick one category, personal growth would probably be the most important of what’s going to make your life go from good to great. After divorce. This is your time to shine. My love. Diving deep into self discovery, exploring your passions and becoming the best version of yourself.

[00:14:23] Remember you are worthy of love, happiness and a life that makes your soul sing. And we are meant to evolve from every single experience that we have. It’s meant to be a stepping stone. Not a roadblock. And so personal growth. Helps us to create those stepping stones so that we start looking at our experiences differently.

[00:14:52] And that’s the key to evolution. One of the ways that you can do that is by romanticizing the life that you [00:15:00] have right now, not by romanticizing a life that you. Want to step into that’s for another topic, manifesting is super important and being able to visualize the life that you want. But also just being able to fall in love with the life that you have now. And leading from a place of gratitude, not from a place of like, I can’t wait to get the fuck out of here and go into this new life that I want.

[00:15:29] That’s not how manifesting works. You have to love. And B. In pure bliss of where you’re at, still with goals so that you can better get to where you’re going faster.

[00:15:42] One of my favorite ways to romanticize your life. Is to start paying attention to all of the love songs that you hear on your playlist or the radio or any songs that you’re listening to. If songs are about love, they’re most likely about another person, but what if you [00:16:00] start taking all of the love songs that you hear and that you love and that, you know, all the words too, and you start saying it to yourself. That is one of the. Best ways to start introducing a little romance into romanticizing your life and realizing how special and amazing you are and loving the. life that you are living right now.

[00:16:22] I shared a post over on IgE the other day. I know I talk a lot about IgG, but I’m on there. All the time, all day, every day. So if you want to keep the conversation going, definitely follow. The post was about the universe meeting you where you’re at. We cause you all the personal growth that we want, you could read all the Tony Robbins books, huge fan of Tony. But if we are not already. Living in that state. We are going to get the same thing. It’s like the definition about insanity. You may have heard it. But the definition of [00:17:00] insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.

[00:17:05] So star by romanticizing and loving. The life that you live right now. And if you don’t love the life that you live right now, what changes need to be made? Right now. To help you start to love the life. That you are in and attract. More of that. Perspective is. Everything.

[00:17:32] Okay, so there you have it. Remember rebuilding you is a journey. It’s not a destination. There will be bumps in the road, right. Stepping stones, but with the right mindset. And a supportive community like the, her heart heals community, which if you’re listening to this podcast, you are already a part of our community. You can create a life.

[00:17:57] That’s nothing short of marvelous.[00:18:00] Now before I let you go. I know I touched on a few different things here, and I really created a lot of emphasis around small shifts that you need to make in order to be able to get your life from good to great. Feeling inspired by today’s conversation, but maybe still wondering how to actually turn that inspiration into action after divorce. Hold on. Don’t worry. I’m not just dropping you off at the cliff at trait here. That’s why I’m offering free next chapter audit calls. Think of it as your personalized roadmap to post-divorce success.

[00:18:44] We’ll chat for about 45 minutes. Dig deep into where you’re at an uncover hidden strengths. You never knew you had plus we’ll blast through any limiting beliefs holding you back by the end of the call, you’ll have crystal clear vision, a personalized [00:19:00] action plan empowerment to rock that action plan.

[00:19:04] You’ll leave feeling pumped and ready to tackle your next chapter with confidence. Sound good. Remember spots are limited. So head over to the link in the show notes. Right now to schedule your call. Don’t miss this chance to take the first step towards an amazing post-divorce life. With a little guidance from your personal divorce transformation.

[00:19:24] Mentor me.

[00:19:26] Remember, you are strong, you are capable and you are worthy of a life.

[00:19:31] That is truly great. I hope you love this episode. If you did, it would mean the absolute world to me. If you could rate and review the podcast. That truly helps to spread the message to other women who are going through the exact same thing and really spread the love for the women in our divorce community. So until next time. Keeping badass and keep rebuilding you. Talk to you soon.