How to Have a Hot Divorced Summer: 20 Must-Haves for Your Slow & Spicy Season
If you’re a high-achieving woman going through or rebuilding after divorce — this is YOUR summer. Whether you’re craving ease, joy, or unapologetic confidence — you don’t have to choose between having a slow, healing summer or a bold, hot divorced summer. You get to have both.
And I’m here to show you how.
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Recently, I polled my community on Instagram — what kind of summer do you want? The majority of women said: “both! I want a slow, intentional summer… and a hot, magnetic, divorced summer.”
Same, girl. Same.
That’s why I created this list of 20 must-haves for creating YOUR best summer yet — after divorce. These are more than just fun ideas — they’re here to help you embody the next version of YOU: powerful, alive, magnetic, and grounded in feminine energy.
Whether you’re the boss building her empire, the career woman craving more ease, or the mom finding herself again after divorce — this list is for you.
1. Title this chapter of your life
How would you name this summer?
“Glow Up Era”? “Reclamation Summer”? “My Feminine Comeback”?
Giving your summer an intentional name sets the vibe for everything that follows.
2. Create your Hot Divorced Summer playlist
No summer is complete without a soundtrack. Create a playlist that makes you feel like the main character in your life post-divorce — because you are.
3. Upgrade your morning rituals
Post-divorce mornings can be tough. Instead of waking up dreading the day, build rituals that make you excited to get out of bed. Whether it’s a sunrise coffee, meditation, or gentle movement — give yourself moments of joy to start the day.
4. Grab a cute workout set
You don’t need a hardcore workout routine — just a fresh outfit that makes moving your body fun again. It’s about shifting energy and honoring your body post-divorce.
5. Find your signature summer drink (cocktail or mocktail)
Create a go-to summer drink — a mocktail, a cocktail, or a fun iced coffee. Having a signature drink adds intentional pleasure to your days.
6. Statement sunglasses = statement energy
Pick sunglasses that say: “I’m unavailable for low-vibe energy.” Period.
7. Skin-glowing essentials
Glowing skin starts from within — nourish your body, hydrate, and find products that help you radiate confidence this summer.
8. Hot summer reads
Pick books that inspire your inner growth — personal development, fiction, career — because glow-ups after divorce aren’t just external.
9. Go-to solo date
Treat yourself. Whether it’s a farmers market, a coffee shop, or a museum visit — spend intentional time enjoying your own company.
10. Breathwork or meditation practice
Life after divorce has its emotional moments. Breathwork and meditation will help you regulate your nervous system, ground yourself, and shift energy fast.
11. Bold lip or nail color
Sometimes a simple red nail or bright lip is all it takes to remind yourself: “I’m still that woman.”
12. Summer bucket list (with something new!)
Write down 1-3 new things you’ll do this summer. It’s about creating new memories after divorce and expanding your experience.
13. Make an aligned money move
Invest in yourself. Pay off a bill. Open that high-yield savings. Manifesting abundance starts with intentional money moves.
14. Sacred “No” list
Boundaries are everything. Write down what you’re not available for this summer — energetically, emotionally, and physically.
15. Say yes to being seen
Post-divorce, many women hide — from the world, social media, dating, life. Start saying yes to visibility again. It’s time to be seen.
16. Find your support squad
Whether it’s an accountability partner or a coach — having support post-divorce is key for growth, healing, and next-level energy.
17. Sexy playlist to reconnect with your body
Boss babes going through divorce tend to stay in their masculine. A sensual playlist helps you drop back into your feminine energy — balance is everything.
18. Commit to nourishing your nervous system
You’ve been through a lot — your body needs care. Breathwork, somatics, rest, and boundaries will help you heal from within.
19. Choose your summer mantra
Pick a mantra or affirmation to guide your summer. Bonus points if you post it on your mirror and read it daily.
20. Signature summer fragrance
Anchor this summer with a scent. Every time you catch that fragrance, it reminds you: this is who I am becoming.
Final Thoughts: You Get to Choose Who You’re Becoming After Divorce
Hot Divorced Summer isn’t about performing for anyone — it’s about YOU.
You’ve done the work. You’ve survived the hard parts. Now it’s about thriving — on your terms.
This can be the season you soften AND strengthen… where you create new memories… where you feel like YOU again after divorce.
And if you want to go deeper — I created a Hot Divorced Summer Journal with my favorite prompts to help you design this season and anchor into your next chapter.
It’s free — all you have to do is leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts for my show Rebuilding YOU, DM me on Instagram (@herheartheals), and I’ll send it straight to your inbox.
Because this is YOUR summer. And you get to decide who you’re becoming.
Hope you enjoyed this read! xo, Christina
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