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Hi, I’m Christina Cuevas. Seven years ago, I went through a divorce, and it completely turned my world upside down. And I’m so glad it did. I documented my healing to share information with other women going through their own divorce journey. And now, With thousands of downloads around the world from divorced women just like you, I’m here to show you how to ditch the shame around divorce and finally heal so that you can regain the confidence to create your most abundant and joyful future.
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Hello? Hello, what is up? My beauties. I am Christina, your host and strategists to helping women thrive beyond divorce. I helped divorced women rebuild her empire, using strategies [00:01:00] techniques. Mindset manifestation , stepping into action and helping you rebuild your happiest ever after. So I’m so glad that you are here with us today.

 
I have a really, great episode, and it’s actually going to be kicking off a lot of episodes themed all around money, and really rebuilding abundance after divorce. And the reason is because I’ve had so many conversations with. Women in our community. And the biggest challenge is always getting back on your feet and really feeling financially secure.

 
And even when you do have income and you are getting it done. Finance is always a really big trigger because most of us have. Had our finances rocked after divorce. So finding our bearings is [00:02:00] always a little bit nerve wracking, and it seems to just like sit with women the most, for many, many years to come, if not for the rest of her life.

 
So I realized that that is a big topic and an area that I want to help in. We are going to be doing a lot of work all around financial abundance. And with that, this episode is also kicking off. A new free masterclass that I have coming out. It’s called hot, smart, divorced, and rich rebuilding your empire, like a boss,

 
it’s actually coming up very, quickly.
You can head to the link in the show notes right now and you can click the link and reserve your seat while you’re listening to the rest of this episode. I was actually looking at a story or looking at Instagram for one of my idols, Gwen Stefani. And she is a divorced woman. She went through a [00:03:00] very public divorce and went through a lot of hurt and challenges throughout. But through that process, she has really come into her own. I think she’s doing so many. Major major things right now she’s on the voice. She got remarried. No doubt. Just headline, Coachella. She’s done just incredible things in her life. And I feel like if we could ask Gwen Steffani right now. About her life post-divorce she would have told you that this is the life that she knew that she was always meant to live.

 
Like when you see her on Instagram, she just looks so insanely happy and fulfilled and like she’s living out her purpose and it’s so incredibly inspiring to watch. And then there’s women like myself who were barely surviving after divorce and [00:04:00] wondering. What the hell? I did two. Land myself in this type of situation. And just like Gwen Stefani. I mean, I realize that I’m not Gwen Stefani rich, but at this point in my life, I feel like I am truly living this life that. I knew that I was meant to live all along, being financially secure, being financially abundant, like having random things happen to me where I get random checks in the mail sent to me

 
I have, built this safety net for myself and really built my own life and taken control of my life to where I’m. I’m living out my purpose I really wanted to touch on. The main points and the real differences that I have found throughout my work throughout my clients’ journeys. And give you some [00:05:00] insights into the real difference between women who become wildly successful after divorce and the women that stay stuck. In survival mode. And I think it’s really important to highlight. Some of these key differences, because I guarantee you, you probably have not looked at it this way before.
So let’s get into it the very first. Difference between a woman who succeeds or barely survives after divorce. Is that she is a master of her emotions.

 
It is so important. To have your emotional intelligence level up. After something like divorce, because divorce can make you go all sorts of crazy and believe me, I fully understand, and it can really rock your whole world, but if we don’t have the ability to snap out of certain. Emotional [00:06:00] spirals and triggers, and really be in control of our emotions. Then we just let our emotions and our life kind of run us. And looking back at my own journey. I realized that I was letting. The anger that I had towards my ex-husband and what happened in the divorce, because that can just stir up a lot of shit. Right. But. I was letting that anger of what happened and not betrayal. Plus the feelings of failure that I had just about getting divorced in general and just feeling like a failure and having that like really overpower. My whole life, it acted like a filter. You know, like you’re taking your selfies and you put that filter, that beauty filter on it was like the ugly filter.

 
The one that turns you into a goblin, but. That is what I describe. Like letting your emotional [00:07:00] state really control the outcome of your life. We go into that work a lot in my program and with my one-on-one clients, but just overall, really mastering your emotions is going to make a huge difference in whether women succeed or whether you stay stuck in survival mode. The second thing is financial literacy. It is so important to really own and master. The game of finance and. Really. Being in control and in charge of your financial situation.

 
I’m talking, taking a hard look at your spending habits. Taking a hard look at. What it is that you’re buying and what for the purpose of those things. A lot of times we spend our money on things that we [00:08:00] think that we need. And when we go deeper, we realize that it’s actually just like. Things that we feel that society. Wants us to spend money on and kind of like that, keeping up with the Joneses.
I think a lot of women who go through a divorce, myself included you are trying to also show the world that you have your shit together and. Deep down inside you. Don’t and your financial situation shows it. And it’s really an adjustment going from dual income, or, you know, having, uh, an additional person supporting you or maybe they were the sole income provider. To then you being the head of household and really owning your financial situation.

 
There can be a lot of triggers that come. From divorce and subconscious spending habits and things like that. So financial [00:09:00] literacy, investing in your future, that is what’s going to set you apart. To succeed. And get you out of that survival mode. And then lastly, the third item that I wanted to talk about is really being about taking action. And having a support system, that’s going to support you for the version of you that you are trying to step into. I always say this, but like going through divorce, the healing process of that. Isn’t it so that you can just get back to where you were before, but it’s about taking a divorce and I’m using that as an experience.

 
That’s going to help you up level in your life. And that’s what experiences in life are for. They are to help us evolve and grow. And so. Healing from divorce doesn’t trust mean? Going back [00:10:00] to that. Status that we were at before. No, it is meant to help us evolve into a greater version of ourselves.

 
And so with that, We need to be able to take scary, hairy, messy action. And so it’s doing things when you’re scared doing things. Even when you have a little voice in your, in your back of your mind saying that, you know, this is the danger zone, and then you also need to have. An amazing support system that knows where you’re going.

 
And doesn’t try to keep you playing small or keep you stuck. And that is such an important piece of it too, because a lot of times. We are just trying to fit in after divorce. We just want to feel that we belong and you have to be really careful about who you spend your time with, who you are, letting influence [00:11:00] you with, what your life is going to look like.

 
Because next thing you know, you’ll be. In the same situations that you had found yourself in when you were married or, the same situations that put you in a state of like struggle and put you in this pattern of like, it gets better and then you struggle, it gets better and then you fail. It gets better.

 
And then. You have this massive debt that happens or this emergency, and you never feel like you’re getting ahead. So it’s important to have, a support system, role models, mentors working with a coach.

So with that. I would love to invite you to join my new free master class. That’s going to be coming out. And I’m so excited because I’m going to share all about my journey from feeling like I was the target of an evil Dodge ball game, where I just kept getting hit in the face with. These freaking massive [00:12:00] balls and

 
I just realized that that did not sound. Correct at all. And it didn’t sound the way that I thought it in my head. But anyway, I’m going to leave this in there. I’m not going to edit that part out, but you get the point right. From getting getting hit by waves over and over again. Let’s just find a better analogy there. Um, And barely being able to pay my bills, to finding my authentic self and gaining financial abundance in the process, and really being able to live a life filled with purpose and peace and happiness.

 
And. Just feeling like this is the life that I know. That I was meant to live. And that first, so many of us that have gone through a divorce, or if you were the one that filed for divorce, you struggle with feeling like I know that there’s a better life out there for me. And thankfully I have found that and that’s what I help all of my [00:13:00] clients do as well. One of my clients, in fact, Was working two jobs when we first started working together. Within 30 days. She was able to recoup the investment of working with me. And was able to quit her second job, which. Allowed her to have spare time to focus on things that lit her up and I’m so excited.

 
She just shared with me how she was able to register, to become a volunteer at her local animal shelter. And she’s big in the dog industry. And she wants to get back into that career path and doing things that she loves and finding her purpose again is just incredible to watch.

So in this masterclass, you’re going to be learning the same strategies that I used, and my clients are seeing success from. That. I want for you to, I’m going to show you as well. There are [00:14:00] limited seats available. And on top of that, When you register for this masterclass, which by the way, if you can’t make it live, you’ll also get the replay. But when you register for this master class, you are also going to get a special bonus offer from me. And it’s to have a free one-on-one strategy call. And get my eyeballs, get my advice on what’s actually keeping you from living your most abundant life.
So we’re actually going to deep dive into strategy about your specific life situation and how to get out of that and start living a life of abundance and really being able to feel like your dream life beyond divorce is. A lot closer than you may have realized.

So in order to save your spot, the link is in the show notes.
Right now you can head on over [00:15:00] there and grab your seat.
So we touched on. The three main reasons and the real difference between women who succeed and women who barely survive after divorce. And that is mastering your emotions, financial literacy, taking messy action and having support. That’s going to help you step into that next level version of yourself. So I hope that this inspired you.

 
I hope that the first messy, hairy, scary action that you are taking is by registering for the free masterclass. And in there, you’re also going to get. The support from myself, that’s going to help you really elevate into your dream life beyond divorce.

 
Divorce can always feel like such a lonely journey.
And now that you are here and a part of the, her heart heals community. You don’t have to go through this [00:16:00] journey alone. I am here to support you. .

 
So, let me know your thoughts on what you learned today. You can go and catch me being silly over on Instagram. I’m at her heart heals, but DME, what you found the most interesting about this episode? Let me know if I’ll be seeing you at the masterclass. And I will see you in the next episode.
All right. Talk to you later.