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[00:00:08] Hi, I’m Christina Cuevas. Seven years ago, I went through a divorce, and it completely turned my world upside down. And I’m so glad it did. I documented my healing to share information with other women going through their own divorce journey. And now, With thousands of downloads around the world from divorced women just like you, I’m here to show you how to ditch the shame around divorce and finally heal so that you can regain the confidence to create your most abundant and joyful future.

[00:00:38] I’m so glad you’re here. This is Her Heart Heals Divorce Radio.

[00:00:44] Hello. Beautiful ladies. Welcome back to the show. This is rebuilding you, and I’m your host, Christina. I’m your divorced strategist, your transformation mentor, your divorce rebuilder guide. Um, I’m just kidding. I’m having a [00:01:00] lot of fun with those titles, but. Today’s episode. Hits close to home for myself.

[00:01:06] And so many of us strong, amazing divorced women. Where. We can all relate to. Going through this season and also really just wanting to put it in the rear view mirror and really be stronger. With all of you that I have had the pleasure of talking to and having conversations with. Divorce is something that we want to be able to make us better. And now standing on the other side of divorce. Blinking in the sunlight, wondering how to rebuild, not just a life, but. Really an empire. And I recently came across that word too, because I was like trying to figure out How to. Really bring this to picture to life of rebuilding, to evolve beyond divorce.

[00:01:59] You guys know [00:02:00] that’s something that I talk about often is. That we don’t go through something hard just to get back to where we were and we’re not meant to go through divorce just to be the same. We’re meant to evolve, to be better. And what better word than empire, right? When you think of empire, you think of. Thriving you think of solid, you think of. Really just being in full control, feeling in your power. So I’ve been having a lot of fun with that word, but. Building an empire that we can truly be proud of.

[00:02:34] And let’s be honest. And empire often comes with some serious financial firepower. You know, empires are wealthy. Empires are rich empires. You know, They’re doing the damn thing. Right. They did something right. They had to build it to what it is it’s not just a little town. It’s a fricking empire. But eight years [00:03:00] ago. That was me. Fresh out of a divorce. Feeling lost. Definitely not feeling financially free.

[00:03:10] That’s for sure. But guess what? This bitch clawed her way back. And built a life that I absolutely love. And achieved financial abundance on my own terms and really redefined. My life away from. What. Anybody else’s opinion about. How my life should have been or. Been rebuilt or anything like that? No. I did it my way and I’m really proud of it. Really fricking proud of it. But here’s the thing. It took. Way longer than it should have. And, you know, why. Because [00:04:00] I too. Was totally stuck. Stuck with these invisible roadblocks holding me back that. We don’t get a roadmap.

[00:04:12] Well, If you found me now. We are building roadmaps together, but. Prior to creating her heart heals. There was no roadmap for succeeding beyond divorce. It’s just, you know, there’s some healing work. And so there’s some things like that, but that doesn’t really move the needle. In a way where we have this rich life. This beautiful life.

[00:04:40] And that’s why I’m so excited to share this episode with you today. And it’s actually coming out a lot sooner. I was doing podcast episodes every other Friday and we will likely go back to that schedule once. The hot. Smart divorced enrich [00:05:00] tour is over. You’ll be seeing that all over my socials.

[00:05:03] That is the theme right now. Hot, smart, divorced, and rich. On this episode. Deep diving into the three biggest things. That can keep you from rebuilding your empire after divorce. And guess what else? Speaking of hot, smart, divorced, enrich. I am going to be giving you access into my brand new free masterclass, which is called.

[00:05:27] Yes. Hot smart, divorced and rich. You guessed it. Rebuilding your empire, like a boss. And this masterclass is a really special, I’ve never taught anything like it before, but it’s all about shattering those roadblocks. And helping you leap towards the financial freedom and the fabulous life that I know that you know, that you deserve. So. Snag your spot. There’s going to be a limited time bonus.

[00:05:58] Also when you sign up and [00:06:00] grab your seat for the training, you’ll also get the replay if you can’t make the live, go to the show notes right now, you can just go to whatever platform you’re streaming on top on the show notes. And you’ll see a link right there that says masterclass. Register right there.

[00:06:14] You don’t even have to pause the episode. Okay. So let’s get into the episode. Let’s get real. What are these? Sneaky roadblocks that trip us up after divorce. And the first one. Is subconscious. Money wounds. Yes. You heard that right? Divorce can leave some serious. Emotional baggage around money. Maybe you feel like you’re not good at managing it? Maybe you’re constantly worried about running out or not having enough or you are one [00:07:00] unexpected expense away from a total mental breakdown.

[00:07:03] And these negative beliefs. Really come from divorce. Like, I don’t think that we give that enough. I don’t want to say credit cause it’s not like a great thing, but we don’t pay attention to it enough that going through a divorce. I can create a lot of subconscious. Little traumas that live with us for a really long time, if not forever.

[00:07:33] You know, after divorce we are forever changed. And I think that money wounds is a big part of that for so many of us. And. These negative beliefs, these negative triggers, these thought patterns and these wounds. Can actually hold you back from being able to receive. Money can hold you back from opportunities. And can [00:08:00] hold you back also from really empowering yourself to make smart financial decisions. And achieving your goals in the process. I remember feeling this way after my divorce, like every purchase felt like a gamble and. I was absolutely terrified of making a mistake. In fact, I can very much remember when I was finally. Had all my bills paid up and I had enough money. To go I think I was like going to go to a concert or something and like treat myself. And then my tire went flat and I took it to the tire shop.

[00:08:40] And guess what? You need all four new tires. And I just remember feeling like. This is not what I need right now in this moment. And I ended up, I didn’t have the money and I had to go and open up a credit card just to pay for these [00:09:00] tires. So I get it. I was absolutely felt like I couldn’t get ahead.

[00:09:06] And that there were all kinds of like money things that kept falling on top of me that felt like I couldn’t get ahead.

[00:09:15] That was a subconscious. Money wound that I had to work on and I had to change. And so here’s the good news. These wounds can be healed. In the masterclass. I’m actually going to share some of the powerful tools. That I used to help you identify your money wounds and start building a healthy relationship with money so that you can. Turn your relationship with money around and you know, you and money can be besties. All right.

[00:09:49] So now for roadblock number two, And that is. Letting your worth. Be defined by external [00:10:00] sources. Now, this can be anything from your ex’s opinion. Too. Expectations of society. I actually talked about this in the last podcast episode as well, but a lot of times we feel as we go through a divorce that people are looking at us differently.

[00:10:19] Wondering if we’re still going to maintain the same status, if we’re still gonna , get the same things and, you know, spend money in the same way. And when we go to just one income, It really changes things. And it. Quite honestly, it fucks with your head, it fucks with your head. And so we have these social. Little gremlins that are. You know, telling us that we should be living life a certain way, and that is placing your worth in external things.

[00:10:55] Even where we are stretching ourselves thin [00:11:00] financially, we know we probably shouldn’t be spending that extra $200 at Zuora. But we’re doing so because these clothes are going to give this certain image. Believe me, girl, I’ve been there. And that that’s where you need to kind of have a real solid talk with yourself. And when your sense of value comes from outside of yourself. That’s when it becomes a really hard to take control of your finances.

[00:11:28] So I want you to listen up. Listen close. Cause we’re tight. Right? You are worthy. Capable. And deserving of financial abundance. Just as much. As anybody else that you come in contact with? Anybody else who is rolling in the dough. You are worthy, capable, and deserving of financial abundance period. End of story.

[00:11:56] I’m going to be talking about the masterclass again, because [00:12:00] all of these podcasts episodes, like I said, were on the hot, smart, divorced, enrich tour right now. But in the masterclass, we’re going to be exploring ways. To cultivate a rock solid sense of self-worth. That empowers you. To make the financial choices that are right for you. And when you do that. The vibe shifts, the relationship shifts. And once again, this is all about your relationship with money. All right.

[00:12:32] And finally, Roadblock number three. Is when you are disconnected from your life’s purpose. You might be wondering like, well, what’s the point of all of this finance stuff and money

[00:12:48] this feeling of lost purpose can leave you feeling. Unmotivated and stuck. When the goal is simply to just make more money, [00:13:00] but you don’t really have a purpose attached to it. It’s harder. It is an authentic and it doesn’t feel good. That’s when getting the money just still leaves you feeling empty and dead inside. I’ve been there because I had to work three jobs at one point, right after my divorce.

[00:13:21] And. Two of the jobs. I absolutely hated, but.

[00:13:25] It had to be done. But. I was working on my purpose and I had something that I was working on. Outside of those jobs that was still fulfilling my purpose. And that is what led me to really grow in my abundance, grow my money, grow in my financial portfolio. And so here’s the secret ladies. When you connect your finances to your deepest desires and dreams, it becomes a powerful tool for creating the life that you truly crave. Even if you don’t know what that is. [00:14:00] Yet.

[00:14:01] I know, you’re probably thinking is she going to talk about that in the masterclass?

[00:14:05] Why? Yes, I am. The masterclass will help you uncover your purpose. And give you those steps on what you need to do to find it and really help you. Magnetize the financial fire to you. So that your purpose and your finances can just have this cute little date and then just really take off from there.

[00:14:30] . And that’s actually just the tip of the iceberg because in the masterclass, you’re also going to get additional bonuses. From me resources plus actionable steps that you can take right away that are specific to your. Reality and to your life.

[00:14:48] Build a secure financial future and create a life that makes you feel. I like the hot, smart, divorced, and rich as fuck queen that you truly are because here’s the thing, [00:15:00] ladies. You’re not alone.

[00:15:01] I’ve been there. And I know the path to financial freedom after divorce can feel daunting, but trust me, you have the strength, the resilience, and the power to achieve anything that you set your mind to. And I’m here to be your guide and I’m honored to do so every step of the way. So. Don’t miss the opportunity to join the seats are filling up head over to the link in my show notes, just look for the link that says master class and sign up today.

[00:15:30] In closing, I just wanted to touch on what we learned today and the three roadblocks that we touched on. That can be holding you back from financial wealth and really rebuilding your empire. And so the first thing that we talked about was subconscious money wounds.

[00:15:48] The second thing that we talked about is letting your worth be defined by external sources and how that can really shape your relationship with money. And then the third thing that we [00:16:00] talked about the third roadblock is that we’re disconnected from our purpose. And so we’re seeking money, not attached to our purpose.

[00:16:09] And therefore there’s a disconnect there. There’s an energy shift. Shift that needs to happen. So I hope that this was helpful for you. Let me know which one stands out to you. The most, find me on Instagram, I’m over there just having a blasty blast. Let me know which one resonated with you the most DM me.

[00:16:28] I’m at her heart heals. And we will chat, but I hope to see you at the masterclass. I’ll catch you on the next episode. Bye.