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Hi, I’m Christina Cuevas. Seven years ago, I went through a divorce and it completely turned my world upside down. And I’m so glad it did. I documented my healing to share information with other women going through their own divorce journey. And now, With thousands of downloads around the world from divorced women just like you, I’m here to show you how to ditch the shame around divorce and finally heal so that you can regain the confidence to create your most abundant and joyful future.

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 Hello, and welcome back to the rebuilding you podcast, where we talk all things, transformation, growth, mindset, and living your dream life after divorce and other tough, complicated shit. Right. I’m your host, Christina. [00:01:00] Welcome back. Hello, it’s nice to talk to you. Today, we’re going to be diving into a topic that I know a lot of you have asked yourselves.

I know I’ve asked myself this many, many times, and it’s like, when you do the work and you’re working on yourself and. Everything seems to be just sort of plugging away, but you’re asking yourself, like, why am I not there yet? I’ve been plugging away for years at this one thing. And yeah, maybe I’ve seen some small growth, but it’s just like, not fully into the goal.

You’re not realizing it. And it doesn’t really feel any closer than you did. Like you’ve done the work you’re showing up for yourself. And yet your dream life still feels a little bit out of reach. But guess what? You actually may be closer than you think. And [00:02:00] we’re going to get into that in this episode.

I’m going to give you all of my tips on how to discover this. And before we get into that, I’ve got something super exciting for you. I created a free podcast companion guide for this episode, so that you don’t even have to take notes. Um, as you guys know, I like to encourage you to listen to podcasts on your hot, smart, divorced, and rich walks. And so I want you to just be able to sit back and take in this information and not have to worry about writing anything down.

So giving you all of the notes that I had when I prepared for this episode and just put it into a companion guide for you so that you have it stored in your inbox, because let’s be honest, we’re all busy women. And it’s packed with key takeaways. Uh, action steps that I’m going to give you some mantras to really help you start experiencing your dream life ASAP.

So head to the show notes, and you can click on the link, grab your copy and trust [00:03:00] me you’ll want and on this one, and if these were helpful, too, Uh, let me know, reply back. It’s something new that I’m trying and wanting to just like, share your notes, my notes with you guys, because I’m like, well, I have these. I might as well pass them along. So. If it’s something that you like, , let me know so that I can keep doing it.

Okay. Now let’s jump in. This all started because I’m doing a lot of subconscious reprogramming right now, all around trigger words. Now we’re going to get into the specific example . And I tie it into part of the training for today. But I’ve just been experiencing a lot of wild things that have been happening.

, Boss giving me a sign that a promotion is closer. A friend that I haven’t talked to in seven years, suddenly reaching out after I had a dream about them the night before. I’ve had opportunities just fall in [00:04:00] my lap. Literally out of nowhere, if you guys listened to, I think it was podcast episode number 81, I told you guys about. Buying my dream house and it coming on the market.

So like these things have just been happening and it’s all because of this subconscious reprogramming and mindset work that I have been doing intentionally. And I put it out on Instagram. We, as I do, we were having a conversation over in the, in the stories. And I wanted to know about what you guys were calling in for the new moon. We had a solar eclipse. Last week.

And there was just like a lot of energy out there and I wanted to know what you guys were all calling in. So I was having a lot of conversations in the DMS about your intentions. But I was like, Would you even know. [00:05:00] If it was working like. We focus so much on the goal. I wanted to just ask, like, how would you even know if what you were doing, if you’re even on the right path?

Like, would you even actually notice. The small shifts and this is where it really gets interesting. And I’ll tell you a little bit about myself. I am. Like a detective for subtle shifts. I don’t know if you guys like true crime or follow any of those things, but I’m one of those people where like, If there is a big story about a crime that happened, I get really invested in like all of the little details. And I can pick up. A lot of patterns and it’s one of my favorite things to do.

In fact, I call it one of my super powers to be able to spot these tiny subliminal patterns in my life. [00:06:00] And it’s one thing that my clients really, really love about working together and our sessions, because. Sometimes the magic comes out when I spot this pattern. And I just sort of blurted out and it becomes this massive game-changing moment that completely shifts the course of like the entire. Work that my clients and I do together.

So it’s really fun. I love it. But here’s the thing. We’re so busy doing all the things that most people miss, the subtle. Patterns. Right. And that’s why I call it one of my superpowers. And I get it, like who has the time to read the universe’s little breadcrumbs that it’s dropping for you, right. When we’re juggling life.

And so I want to talk about how the universe works in your favor and as your mindset [00:07:00] mentor, I wanted to give you my tips, my feedback. Oftentimes when I see clients get discouraged because they’re not getting what they want. It’s because. You know, oftentimes we’re asking for things with a big, giant, shiny red bow on it, and we’re so fixated on. , the outcome being delivered in this beautiful package.

Exactly how you envisioned it. I remind my clients that the universe doesn’t always deliver in these obvious ways. Sometimes it’s sneaky, right? Like sometimes we are needing to experience lessons and we’re also needing to experience expansion and being able to have the energy sometimes to receive. The big thing with the big red bow.

Like a lot of times we’re able to. [00:08:00] Break down that big goal to a smaller goals, bite size steps. And that’s where we’re able to see like real rapid action and things really starting to happen. Um, and, and some of the bigger goal can be really complex. There’s a lot of layers. There’s things that we have to work through. And so that’s part of our program together is we really go down to the studs and start to shift everything.

And then we put it back altogether and start to like really manifest.

So we become so fixated that you miss the work sometimes that needs to be done. And that’s oftentimes why. People never achieved the thing. That’s often why we can feel stuck. And so I wanted to be able to give you some guidance and some feedback so that you can actually recognize these little signs that the universe gives you. [00:09:00] So that you know, that you’re on the right track and you can keep going and not feel discouraged when it’s not delivered to you in the big red bow. And maybe the universe is setting you up for something better.

Imagine if the thing that you’re longing for is unfolding behind the scenes, but you’re too focused on the way that it should happen, that you just completely miss it all together. And you never get a chance to experience just the beauty of. A gift and a big, giant surprise and a reveal in a good way. So I want to give you a reflection exercise to start doing, and I call it the mid day.

LOL. Because oftentimes we’re so busy that we don’t take a chance to even stop and just. Experience. Silence and peace. And that’s kind of where the magic [00:10:00] happens. I’ve been meditating a lot, pretty much every single day I’ve been meditating. And through that, I’ve been able to experience things. That have happened to me that I don’t think I would have noticed because I am so on the go, my schedule is always jam packed. But having these small moments throughout the day where I just sort of check in and I’m like, oh yeah, This did happen or like, oh, I did see that or, oh, how funny things that I thought maybe were like, oh, how interesting it’s a coincidence or, oh, so random that that happened.

And then when I actually can sit down and put all of those together, I’m like, oh my gosh. So. This midday, Lowell, I don’t just want you to stop and pause. I want you to actually become a detective. I want you to look for the clues. . And that’s the thing with like detective work. It’s, it’s seeing the unseen [00:11:00] putting together the story. And gathering all of the evidence. So I want you to look for the small signs.

First things. First, when you do this, check-in you have to ask yourself, what are your desires? What is the goal here? What’s the plan. And how is the universe conspiring in my favor? So again, be a detective look for the small signs and maybe it’s not all fireworks, right? Super obvious things. But you want to look at the little moments. That are proof that things are shifting to helping you towards this goal.

Maybe the universe gave you like closed a door on a friendship that needed to close. Maybe you, um, got an hour, , of extra work that maybe you were asking for extra income. Maybe you’re trying to increase your income , some things that you would take as like a pain in the ass. It’s [00:12:00] actually because you asked for more income.

So therefore the universe is giving you an opportunity to get more income. So. Look for proof. I did this meditation the other day. On the word untrustworthy. Releasing this deep wound trigger that I had attached to this word. And. The very next day after I did my journaling and my releasing on this. Someone who’s a leader in my company came to me and said, I want you to handle this project. I trust your judgment.

You handle it. And that moment came and went, right. It was one of those things where I was like, oh, how funny? But. I stopped. To take the time to reflect. And that’s when I was like, oh my gosh. I meditated on [00:13:00] releasing untrustworthy. And then here I get validation from an external or another person telling me I trust you.

Right. You could see. Like it’s something so simple and so easy for someone to just like, let it go. But when you think about the shift there. It’s it’s wild and that’s proof to me, those are the little signs that show me that all of my work is working. I don’t need to know the final outcome. I just know that what I’m doing, isn’t for nothing. And it was such a beautiful moment and I would have totally missed the significance of it.

And that’s why it’s so important to stop. And take note of these moments and be a detective look. For the clues.

 The next thing I wanted to get into is really getting super clear on what you actually [00:14:00] want. , in episode 82, we talked all about what you need to do. So if you need help getting clear on that. , go back and listen to the episode right before this one.

So one of the things that can really cloud some of these outcomes is that you just have vague manifestations.

Like let’s say one of the things that you’re trying to call in is more money. Okay, but how do you want to actually make that money? We talked a little bit ago about the universe giving you overtime at your nine to five. And us probably looking at us a pain and completely just wondering why, what we had to do to get something so cruel like that. But if you actually want to build a side hustle, Then maybe you need to change. What it is that you’re asking the universe for.

Right? Like being [00:15:00] vague sense, mixed signals to the universe. It puts out this energy and the universe, or God is responding back. Like, well, you asked for this, you didn’t give me the specific details. Right. You’ve got to get super clear on what you actually want. I want you to write it down. Not just the outcome, but I want you to write how you want to feel. How you want to get there, how you want to show up in the process. Clarity is really power here, you guys.

And the more specific that you are, the easier it is for the universe to deliver those aligned opportunities. And manifestation isn’t Woohoo. A lot of people think that it actually it’s woo-hoo but manifestation is just. The outcome of your thoughts? That’s really it it’s the energy mirroring back to you, the thoughts and actions that you put out and it’s like reciprocating, that’s all that manifestation really is.

So [00:16:00] manifestation is neither good, nor bad. It’s just law of. What it is that you think what it is that you do and it’s given it right back to you. So the more clear that you are. The more specific the outcome and the easier it’ll be to be that detective and find those clues.

Okay, so next let’s get into some action steps to really notice your dream life in motion. So here’s what I want you to do every day schedule in that midday. Check-in that midday LOL. Asking yourself, playing detective. How are things shifting for me? Where is the universe showing me evidence and girl don’t overthink it.

Just notice the little things like someone complimenting your work or a random message that gives you an unexpected opportunity. And I want you to get a journal and write down every little sign that things are moving in the [00:17:00] right direction for you. This is about celebrating the progress and shifting from I’m not there yet to, okay.

I’m getting closer every single day. And the beauty of doing something like this is also recognizing that when you’re being faced with challenges, We don’t actually put this into the bigger picture that the challenge that we’re facing is actually going to maybe help you get closer to the thing. I talked a little bit earlier about how sometimes we need to go through certain things and learn lessons. For the outcome that we want to be become realized.

And sometimes we need to learn certain things to expand our container in order to be ready to receive it. Sometimes it’s like, if you wish for a lot of money, What if you’re you have no idea how to manage it? What if you still have to learn? How to be able to [00:18:00] hold and have the energy to hold a lot of money. And the universe needs to teach you certain things to maybe feel financially capable to handling money.

Maybe you need to heal some wounds that you have around money and maybe he also just needs to be. Expanding that container to hold a lot of money because. Let’s be honest. If somebody were to hand you $10 million right now. You’d kind of freak out, right? Like we have to be able to play it cool with money and like have that container to hold it and just, and have money trust us and have this energy flow with money.

I, I could talk about that all day. We’ll say that for another episode. You get my drift, right? We got to just find the signs. And so sometimes even when we experienced the challenge, you’re like, oh my gosh, I see [00:19:00] it now. I see why I needed to go through this. To get the thing. And that’s part of looking for the clues. Okay.

And if you’re ready to take this one step further, take my free. What’s your comeback style quiz. I love it so much. I had so much fun creating it. It’s the first time I’ve ever offered a quiz before, but it’s designed to give you a personalized action plan based on your responses for living your dream life after divorce.

So just helping you align even more with some of your blind spots that you may have, and it’ll give you an action plan and. And I really love it. So let’s figure out where you’re at and how to help you make that shift into the next level. Uh, I’ll drop the link in the show notes. So go click on it, take the quiz and let me know what your results are. Remember the dream life that you’re envisioning is closer than you think.

Sometimes [00:20:00] it’s just about noticing the signs and getting crystal clear on what you want. And trust me, the universe wants to deliver. God did not put us on this earth to suffer. God, put us on this earth to experience abundance and prosperity, and the universe wants to support you. Sometimes we just have to guide the universe to guide us, help me, help you kind of a situation, you know? You’ve got to show up and you’ve got to be ready to , to receive.

And you’ve gotta be clear because we all have free will as humans, so we have to sort of co-create with the universe and seeing the signs is kind of like learning the secret language so that, you know, okay, I’m on the right track. All right, ladies, that is it for today. I hope that you’re feeling inspired to start noticing how God in the universe is already working in your favor.

Make sure to subscribe to this [00:21:00] podcast. Please leave a review. If you feel so inclined and share this episode with a friend who could use a little push towards her dream life to. Until next time, stay ambitious, stay clear, keep manifesting that dream life that you deserve. I love you. And I’ll talk to you next time.

Bye.