[00:00:00] Welcome back to rebuilding you. The podcast that empowers women in an on their divorce journey. I’m your host, Christina. I’m also a transformation mentor for divorced women. That’s really my passion and why I’m here. And I love to bring you. Topics that you can apply throughout your journey that are specifically catered to divorced women. 

[00:00:25] Today, we’re going to be exploring a topic close to my heart, how to write to heal after divorce. This is special to me because writing was not something that came easy when it came to processing through my feelings. This was a learned skill. For me, journaling was never really something that came natural for me either. 

[00:00:48] I had heard in the power of writing and how it can help us to process through emotions. And so. I thought I would love to try this, but I need to figure out a way to write and to really enjoy writing and enjoy writing about my feelings and diving deep. So if this is you too, I have a very special episode planned giving you practical and unconventional ways to incorporate writing to help you heal. 

[00:01:17] If you’re going through a divorce or healing after divorce, your story has the power to heal and transform your life. So. Let’s dive in. 

[00:01:28] Writing can be a powerful tool for healing after divorce. Even if you don’t consider yourself a writer, here are some unconventional ways to incorporate writing into your daily life. And the first thing that I wanted to talk about was a really cool feature that everybody has access to. And that’s voice recording therapy. 

[00:01:51] Now, instead of writing, try recording your thoughts and feelings as if you were talking to a friend. This relaxed approach can help you process and express emotions more authentically. One of the ways that I really love doing this is when I’m out walking. I typically get really inspired. I have things come a lot more naturally to me when I’m out walking. 

[00:02:18] And so that’s not necessarily a convenient time to stop and write things down. So I definitely take advantage. I’m sure, depending on your phone, if you have an iPhone, iPhone, or an Android, Um, they have voice notes that you can incorporate. You can also do a voice note that transcribes into a note. And I definitely do that often, so I definitely do a voice note into my phone and it converts it into writing. And then I’ll go back later and think about what B. 

[00:02:49] Topic was of that thought or the point that I was trying to make. And I’ll try to sum it up. And when you do that, you can begin to piece together some of the layers as you’re processing through your journey. Another fun way that you can begin to just even get familiar with. Putting your hand to paper is doodling your emotions. If you’re not comfortable with words, you can try to doodle your feelings and your thoughts in a journal on a paper, on a pad. 

[00:03:24] It can be completely informal. You can even go and buy like an adult coloring book. Those are fantastic. I love those. When was the last time that you actually colored or just doodled on a paper? Artistic expression can reveal insights and emotions in a very unique way. And it can help us to get in touch with our creative side, which can further bring out emotions that are a little bit uncomfortable to talk about when we can’t necessarily put things into words. So use crayons, watercolor, bring them out, make a night of it, make it fun, and that can really start to help get you comfortable with utilizing, pen to paper. 

[00:04:13] Another way that you can begin to start writing is writing a letter to your past self. When you write a heartfelt letter to your past self, you can offer compassion. And understanding for the journey that you’ve been through. A really great point of reference is to pick an age from your past and write a letter to that version of you. 

[00:04:39] Afterwards, you can create a ritual around it and you can burn it. You don’t ever have to. I think one of the things. That always deterred me from writing. Even when I was little, I’ve always wanted to utilize a diary or a journal, but I always saw that somebody was going to read it. And so I never felt safe enough to be completely vulnerable and write stuff down. 

[00:05:07] And so I really love the ritual of burning it because then you can be sure nobody’s going to see it. You can write it to your past self. And I always liked to write it as though my past self is someone else and you’re just. Writing what you’re currently experiencing. And how that version of you or that person. 

[00:05:33] Couldn’t believe what you’re going through. So you definitely want to write as though you’re talking to a friend. 

[00:05:39] Another creative and fun way that you can begin to add writing and start to practice that skill. Is by creating a field’s book. And a great way to do this is to buy a. One of those large notebooks that are blank. So then that way you have a lot of space to fill it with pictures. Things like that. So, 

[00:06:07] Allow yourself a safe space to vent and simply address what you’re feeling in the moment by creating little collages. Pictures doodles. And then you can add words or I like to call them like little blurbs, little statements to where you’re not necessarily writing like a full page of. Feelings and maybe you don’t know how exactly. 

[00:06:32] The words are going to come out, but you can write short little statements next to these pictures that you’ve put in. Um, another way to do it is by doing a digital collage. If you have a note feature on your phone, You can add in pictures and then you can type in. Feelings you can type in statements. Um, I also like to use these to write in affirmations that come to me, things that are going to be reassuring. And then I come back to them afterwards and look at those and use those affirmations when I’m really struggling. 

[00:07:09] So now let’s explore some common writing exercises with a unique twist to help you further deepen the healing process. And this is definitely more for my girlies that love to write. You’re familiar with the journal. You’ve done it before, and you’re kind of looking for new ways. To explore your practice. 

[00:07:33] And one of those ways is by doing a gratitude journal, 2.0, instead of having a gratitude journal that you’re just listing what you’re grateful for. Right about how your divorce has opened new doors to possibilities and growth. 

[00:07:54] And I know that that’s a very tall order, so definitely be gentle with yourself. And this is really to help us get into the mindset. Of embracing our divorce as something positive or looking at it from a positive perspective. And this can also be for future manifestations that you’re working on for yourself. 

[00:08:18] When we’re writing gratitude for our divorce, you can also picture. Things that haven’t happened yet, that you’re trying to call into your life and be grateful for that just by even writing it down, it puts the connection to our brain. To say, okay, we are priming. For this. 

[00:08:44] Another great way is by create getting very crafty and creating. Your own adventure by crafting a fictional story where you are the main character. Embarking on an exciting journey, filled with self discovery and empowerment. You can use your divorce story as a baseline and add new factors to it. New characters. It’s a great way to tell your story, but also to detach from your true storyline, you can really get creative. You can add in characters, you can add in scenes. You can also sprinkle in some of those manifestations and. 

[00:09:27] Sprinkle and rewriting your narrative, which we’ll get to in just a little bit, but when it comes to the fictional story, if you were to embrace this, you can choose something that happened from your past and tell the story in a different way, a way that maybe you’re romanticizing it, maybe your, um, enhancing the story. 

[00:09:50] Uh, into a way that you would have liked it to go. Um, so definitely got your creative juices flowing, and it’s such a beautiful way to start to tell your story in, in just a really great, unique way. 

[00:10:07] So, what if I told you that we have the ability to rewrite our past. Rewriting a narrative. Is a great way to give us the outcome that we wanted. And change our subconscious mind, which will impact our future. We do a lot of this work in my 30 day program, radiate and elevate. Where we work on shifting our mindset to create a life of abundance. 

[00:10:37] And so rewriting our narrative can be extremely powerful. To go back and tell the story the way that we wished it would have happened. And by doing this, we’re eliminating and we’re healing. A lot of those trauma blocks that we have from divorce that prevent us from really leaping into the future. So here’s what you do. 

[00:11:03] You can take a pivotal moment from your divorce and re-imagine it with a positive outcome. This exercise can really help you reclaim your power over past events. So although it’s not changing the actual reality of the event, you’re basically training your subconscious because our subconscious doesn’t know the difference between. 

[00:11:28] What happened? That’s true. And what happened? That’s fiction. If we simply just begin to cultivate. This other storyline. It can help us as we’re transitioning into a life of abundance, into changing our mindset. And so not holding on to the past so much. 

[00:11:52] Another fun way to prime. Your subconscious is to do an interview with your future self. So you can write in. An interview. Where you ask your future self offers, guidance and encouragement to your present self. Providing hope for the future. I really, really love any type of work where we are using our imagination to really bond and create. 

[00:12:22] Development with our subconscious. To help us get to where we want to go. It’s very, very powerful. 

[00:12:30] So embracing vulnerability is an essential part of healing through writing. As. Someone I really love, admire and respect as Bernay brown says. Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity, and change. Don’t be afraid to open up and share your emotions authentically. Writing is a really great way that you can begin to do this. 

[00:12:58] And become vulnerable. If you’re not ready to share your story with other people. 

[00:13:05] It’s also really important to celebrate your progress, acknowledge the progress that you’ve made on your healing journey. Through writing. You can add a task to your calendar. And cross it off the list. Like let’s say your goal is to write for 10 minutes a day. 

[00:13:24] Add it to your list. If you haven’t already listened to episode number 52. You definitely want to go and check that out. It’s all about seven lists that every divorce woman needs to be successful. And I talk a lot about, um, utilizing a to-do list and being able to cross things off and so make it a goal, whatever it means, even if it’s just five minutes, you want to write for five minutes a day or five minutes a week, even. 

[00:13:50] Add that in, cross it off and celebrate your progress. It’s a really great way to start to hold yourself accountable and also celebrate some of the milestones as you’re healing and really trying to put your best foot forward as you heal and process through some of your emotions. 

[00:14:14] So writing can be a powerful form of self discovery and healing. Remember, there is no right or wrong way to do it. Your story is uniquely yours. Embrace the process. And let your words guide you towards a life that’s filled with confidence, empowerment, and a new found sense of self. I wanted to close with a journal prompt to encourage you to take action on this beautiful practice. 

[00:14:45] So here is a closing journal prompt for your podcast episode. On writing to heal after divorce. So grab a journal or a notebook, or do a voice note and dedicate some time to answering this prompt. And you can also revisit it whenever you need inspiration or a reminder of your resilience. 

[00:15:10] So take a moment. To reflect on one significant event or emotion that you’ve experienced since your divorce. 

[00:15:20] Do you have it? Okay. Now imagine that you are the author of your own story. Right about this event or emotion that comes up as a pivotal chapter in your journey of healing and empowerment Remember to embrace vulnerability And let your words flow without judgment What insights and lessons can you uncover from this exercise How does this new narrative empower you to move forward with a renewed sense of purpose and strength So be sure there, i know there was a bunch of questions in there so it was kind of like journal prompts plural but come back to this Episode and listen to this prompt and write about it marinade on it then come back do a voice note Do several voice notes as things come up for you even after you hear them always come back to it and keep adding to it Thank you so much for joining me on this episode of rebuilding you if you enjoy today’s podcast make sure to subscribe leave a review and share it with other incredible women on their healing journey Until next time keep writing and healing and remember your story has the power to change the world.