Before you roll your eyes, hear me out. Ambitious women—especially after divorce—are not lazy enough. We equate stillness with failure. We overcompensate with productivity. We confuse motion with momentum.

But sometimes, the most spiritual thing you can do is nothing.

“lazy” is just another word for regulated

“Your version of lazy is someone else’s busy season.”

As high-achieving women, we’ve been programmed to believe that worthiness is measured by output. But what we call lazy is often a nervous system finally exhaling after years of survival.

When you slow down, your body finally feels safe enough to rest. You can’t heal in fight-or-flight. You can’t hear God when the noise of your own striving is louder than His whisper.

This is why lazy girl healing is not just a cute phrase—it’s a strategy.

the divine purpose of slowing down

After my divorce, I didn’t know how to stop. I went from lawyer meetings to full-time work to endless distraction, because slowing down felt unsafe.

Until my body—and God—forced me to.

I ended up in the ER multiple times with anxiety-induced symptoms. Every time I pushed harder, God whispered louder: “Be still.”

The night before my final divorce hearing, I prayed, “God, I can’t do this anymore. Give me a sign it’s okay to let go.”

The next day, the judge pulled me aside and said, “You’re young. If you walk away now, you’ll get it all back.”

I knew it wasn’t her voice. It was the Holy Spirit.

That was my sign to surrender.

And I did.

What followed wasn’t just restoration—it was peace. God didn’t just give back what I lost; He gave me something far richer: alignment.

stillness is strategy, not procrastination

When you’ve spent years in survival mode, rest feels wrong. It feels like you’re falling behind. But rest is not regression—it’s recalibration.

Every divine comeback requires stillness. You can’t rebuild a solid foundation while you’re still sprinting.

“Rest isn’t regression; it’s recalibration.”

As ambitious women, we have to unlearn the programming that says “doing equals worth.” Your value is not in your output—it’s in your obedience.

when guilt creeps in

You finally carve out time to rest—and instantly feel guilty. You grab your phone, scroll, multitask, tell yourself you should be doing more.

That voice isn’t conviction. It’s conditioning.

“That voice saying ‘you’re wasting time’? That’s not God.”

Scripture reminds us again and again: “Do not be afraid.” (One for every day of the year, by the way.)

Rest is obedience when God calls you to be still. It’s how you show Him you trust His timing more than your own effort.

lazy-girl healing in action

Let’s make this practical. Here are a few simple ways to cultivate stillness (aka “holy laziness”) in your everyday life:

1. 5-Minute Morning Prayer

Before your feet hit the floor, thank God for the day. Tell Him your plans and ask Him to edit them to match His will.

2. Sauna or Shower Reset

Pair warmth with worship. Let the physical purification mirror your internal one.

3. Silent Walks

No podcast. No playlist. Just your breath and God’s presence.

4. Slow-Morning Coffee + Devotion

Step outside, sip, and read one scripture. Let it marinate before checking your phone.

5. Breath Prayer

Inhale: I trust You.
Exhale: I release control.

These “lazy girl” rituals aren’t about doing less for the sake of it—they’re about creating space for divine partnership.