Trusting Your Path After Divorce: When God’s Timing Doesn’t Match Yours
Have you ever felt like your life was finally starting to line up—and then divorce hit?
Like, “Great. Now I have to deal with this instead of working on my dreams.”
I’ve been there.
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For the longest time, I believed divorce had derailed my plans for greatness. That it had taken me away from purpose, when in reality—it was the very thing that put me on the path God intended.
Sometimes divine timing doesn’t feel divine at all. It feels messy, slow, and inconvenient. But what if the season that looks like a detour… is actually the doorway?
When God Interrupts Your Plans
I used to think I had my life all mapped out.
Career goals, personal milestones, the “perfect” marriage—I was checking every box and chasing every gold star.
And then… God crumpled up my roadmap.
Divorce wasn’t in my five-year plan, but it was in God’s plan for my becoming.
At the time, I couldn’t see it. I was frustrated and hurt, asking “Why this? Why now?”
But here’s what I’ve learned: it wasn’t a derailment—it was divine redirection.
Because as much as I wanted control, God wanted connection.
When we try to micromanage our lives, God will lovingly interrupt our plans to get our attention. He’s not being cruel—He’s calling us closer.
The Truth About Marriage Goals
If I’m being totally honest, I used to treat marriage like an achievement.
Something to check off the list.
Maybe you’re not there yet in your journey, but I encourage you to sit with that question:
What was I trying to hold together for show?
For me, I was striving so hard to make the picture-perfect plan work that I never stopped to ask God if the person I married was even the best match for me. I didn’t consult Him—I just chased what looked “right.”
Looking back, I truly believe God gave me a second chance.
My divorce wasn’t punishment. It was protection.
That may sound strange, but I don’t think God ever wanted me to marry that person to begin with. Divorce, for me, became the vehicle through which He lovingly rerouted me back to His purpose.
Your story might look different—but I invite you to seek Him and ask what He’s trying to show you in your season.
We All Have Different Crosses to Carry
Recently, I was in a group call where a mom was sharing how overwhelmed she felt as a stay-at-home parent with big business dreams. Someone gently told her, “This is your season. This is your cross to carry right now.”
That hit me deeply.
We all have different crosses.
The enemy knows how to attack each of us through our deepest insecurities. What shakes me might not shake you, and what triggers you might not faze me.
That’s the thing about divorce—it brings up what’s already inside you.
It reveals the parts God is asking to heal.
And the work begins when we stop seeing those triggers as failures and start seeing them as divine invitations.
That’s exactly what I help women do inside She’s Not Done—shift from asking “Why me?” to “What’s God showing me through this?”
My Cross in This Season
Right now, my cross looks like slowing down to care for my senior dogs.
I joke that I’m in my “dog-mom hospice era,” but truly—it’s been holy ground.
I had all these plans: business projects, travel, speaking events.
And God said, “Actually, I need you home.”
At first, I felt guilty for enjoying it. Guilty for resting. Guilty for saying no to things that looked like progress.
But this is my season.
And God even used my health challenges to make sure I slowed down long enough to listen.
It’s like He said, “If you won’t rest willingly, I’ll make you rest purposefully.”
Sometimes the thing that feels like it’s holding you back… is actually the thing holding you together.
It’s God’s way of saying, You’re right where you’re supposed to be.
Carrying Your Cross Daily
There’s a verse that anchors me in seasons like this:
“Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves, take up their cross daily, and follow me.” — Luke 9:23
Taking up your cross doesn’t always look heroic.
Most of the time, it’s quiet.
It’s choosing peace instead of panic.
Obedience instead of avoidance.
Faith instead of fear.
Ask yourself:
What does picking up your cross look like for you right now?
Maybe it’s releasing the timeline.
Maybe it’s accepting that your quiet season is still productive—even if it doesn’t look like progress.
Finding Purpose in the Delay
Every delay I once resented turned out to be preparation for something greater.
God’s timing isn’t late—it’s layered.
There are things being worked out in your favor that you can’t even see yet.
And when it feels like nothing’s happening, it’s usually because God’s building something deeper beneath the surface.
That’s why the Bible says, “Consider it all joy when you face trials.”
Joy isn’t pretending everything’s fine.
Joy is trusting that there’s purpose in the pain.
This delay, this in-between moment, is shaping you into the woman who can hold what she prayed for.
The delay isn’t denial.
It’s divine development.
You’re Right Where You’re Supposed to Be
If you’re in that waiting season where it feels like nothing’s moving, remember this:
You’re not behind.
You’re right where you’re supposed to be.
God hasn’t forgotten you.
He’s fortifying you.
This isn’t a detour.
It’s divine design.
And if you’re ready to find peace and purpose right where you are—to breathe again and feel on purpose again—
come join me inside She’s Not Done.
It’s a beautiful 30-day experience for ambitious women who are rebuilding after divorce, learning to trust God again, and discovering that they are not behind—they’re just being built for what’s next.
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Final Thought
Delay doesn’t mean denial.
It means you’re being developed.
So wherever you are today—take a deep breath and remember: you’re not off track.
You’re on holy ground.
Hope you enjoyed this read! xo, Christina
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