December has a unique way of showing us the truth — about where we are, what we’re carrying, and what still needs healing. And when you’re navigating divorce or the aftershocks of it? December hits different.

This is your invitation to step into a new identity, create a clean emotional slate, and enter 2026 already building momentum. Let’s walk through the four steps of your Comeback By Christmas.

Why December Matters More Than You Think

December is a mirror.
It reflects the emotional clutter you’ve avoided, the patterns you’ve outgrown, and the parts of you that are asking for attention.

It also brings to the surface:

• Loneliness
  
  
• Pressure
  
  
• Identity cracks
  
  
• “Who am I now?”
  
  
• “Did I waste this year?”
  
  
• “Why does everyone else look happier than me?”
  
  

But December also brings opportunity — a reset, a reclamation, and a quiet, holy pause where God whispers:

“Daughter, you are not done yet. There is more for you.”

If you finalized your divorce this year, you’re in that in-between season — not who you were, not yet who you’re becoming. And that’s exactly where your comeback is born.

What a Comeback By Christmas Actually Means

Let’s talk about what this is not.

A comeback is NOT:

• Setting 47 goals
  
  
• Trying to become a “new woman” overnight
  
  
• Manifesting frantically until January
  
  
• Grinding yourself into the ground
  
  
• Fixing everything in two weeks
  
  

That’s survival-mode.
That’s the old identity trying to stay in control.

A true comeback is about one thing:

Becoming the woman you will not regret being when January 1st hits.

Not perfect.
Not finished.
Just aligned. Clear. Ready.

This is identity over urgency.
Foundation over frenzy.
Healing over hustling.
Alignment over panic.

Because what got you through divorce…
will not get you through your comeback.

The 4 Steps to Your Comeback By Christmas

These are the exact four pillars I use with my private clients and inside Your Greatest Comeback.

Follow them and you’ll step into January with more clarity, confidence, and grounded momentum than you’ve had in years.

1. Rebuild Your Inner Foundation

This is where every real transformation begins.

You stop abandoning yourself.
You learn how to feel safe again.
You rebuild emotional trust with yourself.

Foundational work includes:

• Emotional regulation
  
  
• Centering techniques
  
  
• Breathwork and prayer
  
  
• Listening to your inner voice
  
  
• Taking small aligned actions
  
  

Without this?
Nothing else sticks.
This is why many women “start over” year after year — they’re building on shaky internal ground.

2. Heal What’s ACTUALLY Holding You Back

Here’s the plot twist:
It’s not your ex.

It’s the patterns and emotional addictions formed over years of survival mode:

• The guilt
  
  
• The belief that you’re “too much”
  
  
• The idea that happiness is unsafe
  
  
• The pressure to tone yourself down
  
  
• The fear of repeating old mistakes
  
  
• The self-protective habits you learned in marriage
  
  

These hidden blocks create internal static that keeps you from stepping into your new identity.

When you learn to identify your triggers, name them, and heal them at the root… everything changes.

This is the work that frees you forever — not just for the holiday season.

3. Design Your Next Chapter

This is where things get fun.

Your next-level life cannot be built by accident.
Clarity is queen.

Ask yourself:

• Who am I becoming?
  
  
• What is God calling me into?
  
  
• What does my 2026 life look and feel like?
  
  
• What kind of rooms am I in?
  
  
• Who surrounds me?
  
  
• What does that version of me require?
  
  

Bring your five senses into it.
Make it vivid.
Make it alive.

Without a vision, you default back to old emotional patterns — the protective, smaller versions of yourself.

Design the life you’re building toward… or you’ll unconsciously recreate the one you already left.

4. Build Momentum Before the Year Ends

Momentum isn’t created through hustle.
Momentum is created through alignment.

It looks like:

• One identity-level decision
  
  
• One choice that feels like future-you
  
  
• One act of self-trust
  
  
• One step that tells your nervous system, “I’m safe. I’m capable. I’m moving forward.”
  
  

This is how comebacks are born.
Not with pressure — but with consistency, clarity, and alignment.

One spark becomes the flame.
And once the flame is lit… it doesn’t go out.

My First Christmas After Divorce: A Story of Rebuild

I’ll never forget the first Christmas after my divorce.

My house was empty.
My mattress was on the floor.
I was eating takeout off a cardboard box because I didn’t have a table yet.

It was the quietest my life had ever been…
and the loudest my thoughts had ever been.

And in that moment — part sad, part angry, part confused — the Holy Spirit grabbed me by the shoulders and said:

“This is not the ending.
This is the beginning.”

That night, I made a promise to myself:
I would not fight this season.
I would move through it and let it rebuild me.

God delivered on that promise — through healing, identity work, using my voice, and creating this podcast. If He rebuilt me from that wilderness season, He can rebuild you too.

Final Word: Your Moment Is Now

A year from now, you won’t remember the overwhelm.
You won’t remember the doubt.
You’ll remember the moment you finally chose yourself.

Let this be that moment.
Let December be the month everything shifts.

Give yourself the gift of a comeback.
You deserve nothing less.